OBNOXIOUS?? Like she's got a lot of room to talk!!
You may remember THIS POST about Boxer, my obnoxious cat that I built up resentments towards because his behavior and temperament is the complete opposite of my previous mellow, laid back cat Sparky that I found myself still grieving for.
A QUICK RECAP:
About the time Boxer became more than I could bear, was about the time I realized I was harboring such feelings toward him and we began a process of healing. Pamela’s Challenge came along about the same time and I began by focusing on our evening lap time with simple ’reward and ignore’ techniques to calm him down. It worked beautifully and we began to bond again.
I claimed that if all I ever had with Boxer was gentle lap time, I had conquered everything and I did, but Boxer, being who he is, didn't stop being his pushy, demanding self the rest of the time. We weren't through yet.
AND THE CHALLENGE CONTINUES…
An amazing thing happened out this action, we began to understand each other and learn how to read each other better. Since I am so hypersensitive and Boxer being so strong willed and determined, we are finding how to work together and ease into our lap time. When he comes at me with such force, I tell him “NO” with my foot. I continue this until I see his attitude soften. Which only takes a couple of times if that. Then I use my hands which say “wait” or “not yet.” We will continue this dance of coming closer and like minded, one step at a time until I will invite him on my lap or he has snuck in close enough to make the initiative himself.
I can not tell you how many times I have cringed when I would see him rallying towards me like a heavy weight boxer gearing for a fight and I never knew what to do. Boxer is one powerful cat, not just in size but in willpower and I always felt plowed over by these combined strengths.
This simple body language has changed our relationship even further. There is more respect between us and we are enjoying each others company with the bonding that has ensued because of a foot that means “NO” and a hand that says “not yet.”
OK, how about now?Now if I can figure out a way to keep him off my chair every time I get up, I think I would be in heaven. MOL!!